174: Dr. Scott Lyons - Addicted To Drama? How To Break the Cycle

You can’t talk yourself out of trauma. You must get to the core pattern stuck in your body memory and shift the behavior associated with that trauma. - Dr. Scott Lyons Share on X

Dr. Scott Lyons is a holistic psychologist and author of Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others.

So I spoke with him about why we shouldn’t dismiss the behavior of those who seem to thrive on drama as attention-seeking. Like any addiction, engaging in conflict may be a way of coping with deeper psychological issues and trauma.

As he shared, we all develop survival patterns during infancy in response to emotional or psychological wounding. We may become hypervigilant and chronically anxious about our external world, yet numb or unable to process what we feel internally.

So you’ll hear why becoming a “drama queen” may be the body’s way of seeking extreme experiences just to feel *something* again. To metabolize emotions stuck deep in our core identities.

But we can unlearn these behavior patterns, and Dr. Lyons shares a few helpful tips on how to do so during our conversation.

Our traumas and joys become the glasses through which we see the world. Our adaptive strategies form our identity around this perceived reality. - Dr. Scott Lyons Share on X

In this episode, you’ll discover more about

What it means to be addicted to drama
How pain and trauma manifest as chaos and chronic stress in our lives
How our caregivers during infancy influence how we regulate our emotions throughout life
Shifting patterns from our stress response cycle to truly satisfy our underlying emotional needs
Why understanding our identity formation may be the key to healing
The benefits of being in resonance with our emotions and how it improves our relationships with ourselves and others